Dress Sense
Recently there was a television program on girls who used sex, or sexual allure, to climb their way up the corporate ladder. One typical example was of a girl who recounted how she started work in an office at 17 and was, as she put it, shitted on by everyone else. There was a pecking order and she was at the bottom. So she made it her aim to ingratiate herself with the boss. She started dressing sexually and flirted with him. This was an English program and bosses carry more status there than they do in Australia or the USA. As a result she found she was given better work, was treated with more respect and, she said, was able to take longer lunch breaks. One day the boss asked her to stay after work and took her into his office where he had two glasses of Champagne and then started ‘coming on to her’, as she put it. She made an excuse about her mother waiting for her and left. Two days later she was sacked.
Women nowadays use their sexual allure as a way of manipulating men - and men
are often easy game. However, these women are playing with fire. Men often misread
the signals, which are frequently ambiguous anyway. Women who use their sexual
allure in this way, especially when they have no sexual intention, find sooner
or later that some men won’t stop when they are supposed to. The women's movement
claims that ‘No means No’ but how does this help the girl who was invited back
to a colleague’s room and he rapes her having misread the signals? A few years
ago such girls would have been accused of being ‘easy’ but nowadays girls walk
around wearing tee shirts with ‘Porn Star’ written on them. What message are they
trying to convey? We have reached such depths of confused irrationality that even
to talk about such things as a dress code will raise the ire of the mob.
The problem is exacerbated when dealing with young people and especially where
alcohol is involved. The women don't have to maturity to realise the real message
they are sending out and the men don't have the maturity to understand the reality
of the situation. or sometimes the self control. The result is what is often called
‘date rape’. In some instances the woman claims she was raped when both she and
the man were so drunk that neither can remember what actually happened. How does
such nonsense as ‘No means No’ help here?
I would probably be stoned to death if I said that women in these cases only have themselves to blame, but not so many years ago most women would have agreed with me. Many still do.
