Men and Sex
Men think about sex most of the time. To some people
that's hardly news. To others it would seem a gross oversimplification. Recently,
on a project I reported back to an all-male group on a meeting I had just had
and explained that a woman was brought in to fill a particular role. Someone
asked ‘what size tits did she have?’ This was, I should add, a group of highly
paid IT consultants. Normally in a group of men most may think this but are
too polite to say it.
Women are strangely unaware of how most men think. Many times I've heard attractive
girls comment on how friendly people are. In the movie ‘Liar Liar’ a lawyer,
who is forced to tell the truth because of a spell, replies to this comment:
‘Yes – that's because you have big breasts’.
It’s not that men want to have sex with every woman they come in contact with,
it’s much more subtle than that. It’s more that men see the prime communication
to be a sexual one, at least at first. Most married men wouldn't actually have
sex with another woman even if the opportunity came up. And many men who talk
and think about sex would freeze up if actually presented with the opportunity.
I read an article by a woman who worked in a brothel as the ‘madam’. She wasn't
a prostitute but managed the place and looked after ‘her girls’. She said that
a woman could never understand men's sexuality. They could know, from experience,
what turns men on but they would never understand it.
There was an account I read of two lesbians who lived together – let’s call them Jane and Alex. Alex started hormone treatment in order to live as a man and Jane complained in the article that it turned Alex into everything that Jane disliked about men. She said Alex drove aggressively, belittled her and wanted sex all the time. It is a commonly said by women who have testosterone treatment that it increases their sex drive.
I recently made a comment to an unmarried mother about her daughter who went out wearing short skirts and dressing sexily. The mother told me that if that was how the daughter wanted to dress then that was her business. I thought to myself that were she married her husband probably would have made a similar comment. Men understand how men think. Naive women think it’s all rather charming and innocent.
Women who turn up to the office wearing short skirts or ultra low-cut jeans
are often the centre of attention, but they won’t be taken seriously. The men
don't look past their sexiness and the women consider them cheap.
