Opposites
I'm sure most of us have come across them at one time or another. Not particularly bright but they have (or rather had) a good idea once and they live off it. In fact, when they first tell you about this idea you think they must be pretty intelligent, until you realise that it's probably the only idea they've ever really had. They have good ideas so rarely that when they get one it takes them over.
Similarly, at an emotional level, there are people who come out of a movie or a concert and go on about how moving it was. You may think this person is very sensitive. In fact, the opposite may be the case - they go on about how moving it was because they are so unused to being moved. Again, at an intuitive level, a person recounts an intuitive experience, for instance a perception or an intuitive insight, and you think that they must be very perceptive.
The appearance is the opposite of reality.
I've mentioned before ('Fashion') that trendsetters and trend followers are similar in that they are both concerned with trends. Similarly, the popular cheer-leader beloved of popular fiction and the aspirants who look up to them have in common their desire for popularity, and they all despise the outsiders who don't care about popularity.
What appear to be opposites in fact are not, which is why so often apparent opposites attract. For example, a woman is attracted to a man because he is sensitive and quiet. He is attracted to her because she is decisive and not the demure type. After some time of marriage she resents the fact that he is indecisive and she always has to make the decisions, and he resents that she is always telling him what to do.
On the other hand, people can be attracted to someone who appears to be similar. Again, after some time together they resent each other. What they see in the other is their own reflection, which becomes extremely annoying. People don't like to be reminded of their faults.
In both cases what starts as endearing when they were courting becomes infuriating after some time of living together. The appearance of being the opposite or the same can be misleading and overly simplistic.
